Somewhere along the way, the two of you stopped feeling like a team. The same fight keeps coming back. Small things turn sharp. Or the house has gone quiet, and you can't remember when that started.
Couples therapy is a place to work on the relationship itself, with someone who isn't taking sides. You don't need the right words to start. Tell us about why you're here, and we'll take it from there.
What couples therapy is
Therapy for the relationship, not a referee.
In couples therapy, the relationship is the client. Your therapist isn't there to decide who's right. They work with how the two of you talk, argue, repair, and reach for each other, and where those patterns get stuck.
Grounded in the Gottman Method.
Our couples work is grounded in the Gottman Method, a structured, widely used approach to couples therapy. In plain terms: it focuses on how you handle conflict, how you turn toward each other in small everyday moments, and what keeps friendship and trust alive between you.
Built on what already works.
We start with the strengths your relationship already has. Our approach is strengths-based, which means neither of you sits in the room as the problem. The goal is a relationship where you both feel understood.
- The same argument keeps repeating, and it never really gets resolved.
- You feel more like roommates than partners.
- Trust has been shaken, and you're not sure how to move forward together.
- A big change, like a new baby, a move, a loss, or a demanding season of work, has the two of you out of step.
- Nothing is wrong exactly, and you still want the relationship to feel closer than it does.
You don't have to be in crisis to come. Couples of every background are welcome here. If one of you is also carrying something of your own, we can help with that too: see how we work with anxiety and burnout and work stress. If what's straining the relationship involves the kids or the whole household, family therapy may be the better fit, and we can help you figure that out.
What to expect
Reaching out about your relationship can feel vulnerable. Here is exactly what happens, so there are no surprises:
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Reach out.
Fill out our short contact form or call us. Tell us about why you're here, in your own words. One of you can take this step for both of you. Do you have a preferred therapist? You can tell us that too.
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We coordinate for you.
A care coordinator, not a therapist, follows up to talk through therapist fit, language preferences, availability, and cost. You choose from there. Scheduling and cost questions stay with our care team, so your therapist's room stays for therapy.
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Meet your therapist.
A consultation is available before you commit, so you can both see whether the fit feels right.
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Begin together.
Your first sessions are about your therapist getting to know the two of you, your history, and what you each want to change. From there, you'll work at a pace that fits your relationship.
Our approach
Our therapists work with the whole picture of a relationship: how each partner's story, family background, and culture shape what happens between you. Differences in how you were each raised to handle conflict, money, family, or feelings are part of the work, not a problem to get past.
We take time to match you with a therapist who fits the two of you, including language. Depending on the therapist, sessions are available in Korean, Mandarin, or Taiwanese.
Couples therapy here is not about deciding whose fault it is. It's about helping the two of you understand each other and practice something different, together.
Who you'll work with
Nabi Family Therapy is a group practice of experienced therapists across four California offices. Our team includes licensed therapists and supervised associate therapists, and couples work is a full part of what we do. We match you with the therapist who fits the two of you, rather than asking you to figure that out alone.
Logistics
In person at our offices in Manhattan Beach, Arcadia, Irvine, and Burbank, California.
Online sessions are available for clients who are physically in California or Oregon at the time of the session.
Your therapist will talk openly with the two of you about what makes sense for your relationship.
Requests go through our care team, who coordinate scheduling with you. There is no instant online booking, on purpose: matching comes first.
Fees and insurance
We believe you should understand cost before you begin, not after. When you reach out, our care coordinator will walk you through the cost for the therapist you're matched with, before you commit to anything.
Sessions are $175–250. Sliding scale spots are limited but available.
We are currently in-network with Cigna PPO, Aetna PPO, Optum/United Health, and Anthem Blue Cross, in California. Availability varies by therapist, please contact us to verify.
Sliding-scale spots are available for students, single parents, caregivers, essential workers, seniors, and others facing hardship. FSA and HSA payments are accepted.
We provide superbills you can submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement.
You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate of what your care will cost.
Questions
FAQs
What if my partner isn't sure about therapy?+
That's common, and it's okay. A consultation is available before you commit, so you can both meet your therapist and see how it feels. One of you can reach out first. Tell us about why you're here, and we'll take it from there.
Do we both have to be at every session?+
Your therapist will work that out with the two of you. The shape of the work can flex as it goes, and your therapist will be open with you about what they recommend and why.
Is couples therapy only for relationships in trouble?+
No. Some couples come in crisis. Others come because something feels off, or because a big change is ahead and they want to stay steady through it. You don't need things to be falling apart to start.
Can we do couples therapy online?+
In-person sessions are available at our four California offices. We also offer secure online therapy for clients who are physically in California or Oregon.
How much does it cost?+
Cost depends on the therapist you're matched with and whether insurance applies. Our care coordinator will go over the numbers with you before your first session, so there are no surprises.
Home should be a place where you both belong.
When you're ready, reach out and tell us about why you're here. Our care team will take it from there.